the attraction is purely physical (wanting to bang them =/= romantic compatibility)
you feel pressure to change or hide parts of yourself to get them to like you
aspects of their lifestyle make you uncomfortable (i.e. alcohol/drug use, people they hang out with, etc.)
they invalidate or belittle your identity or your passions (i.e. “Bisexuality means you’re confused!” “Writing can’t be a real career!” etc.)
they never stop talking about their exes
they only talk to you to vent their emotional baggage
they routinely ignore you without explanation
they’re only interested in conversations about themselves
you put effort into getting to know them, but they don’t seem to care about getting to know you
you constantly worry about their approval or pleasing them
no matter how much you like someone, basing a relationship around worshiping or trying to fix someone or fueling an inferiority complex is unhealthy and leaves you vulnerable to toxic and emotionally draining relationships. attraction is strong and we do dumb things when we’re infatuated with someone, but please remind yourself that your own well-being should always take priority over any potential romance and run far away if anyone, especially your crush/partner, suggests otherwise.
You have no idea how much this would have saved me a year ago sweet baby jesus BOOST!!!
Rules: Tag at least 10 followers you want to know better! NAME: Brandon NICKNAME: Be, Brando, Bebs BIRTHDAY: September 12th STAR SIGN: Virgo GENDER: dudebro HEIGHT: 4′11 FAVORITE COLOR: I really like all shades of blues?? and pinks?? v cute TIME RIGHT NOW: 10:38pm AVG HOURS OF SLEEP: It depends tbh 6 to 8?? LAST THING I GOOGLED: Derby Pie NUMBER OF BLANKETS I SLEEP WITH: three bc im constantly cold FAVE FICTIONAL CHARACTER: probably shizuo or masaomi??? i also like Ryou and many more idk FAVE FAMOUS PERSON: Ohhh m y god either Josh ramsay or Patrick stump also Beyonce FAVE BOOK: perks of being a wallflower FAVE BAND: fob or marianas trench LAST MOVIE I SAW: The Prince of Egypt DREAM TRIP: probably to california– anywhere with a big city tbh. just being able to explore new places and buy rad souvenirs !!! also possibly out of the country- but i’d have to have someone i kno travel with me. DREAM JOB: Something that pays well where i dont have to bust my ass for little money it’d be cool to work at a theater though !! somewhere well known would be cool to
im not tagging bc i doubt anyone would want to do it but hey if u want, go for it !
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1. When he starts distancing himself from you, do not restring bridges with your own sinew. You will find yourself two months later coming unraveled, coming undone. You will find he has left you in the places he has visited and in the hair of the girls he has imagined kissing. You will find yourself splatterpainted on the walls where while drunk he confessed all of your secrets to his college friends. You will be crying on the floor, surrounded by the parts of you he has stepped on, and he will look you in the eyes and ask you to clean up the mess.
2. When she cannot get through the words “I love you” without her eyes flicking to the side or her tongue slurring or her mouth pressing in at the edges: do not assume it is your fault. Do not think that you have yet again pushed away someone amazing. You have not. Sometimes people knock on their bones and find themselves hollow. You were the only way they felt momentarily whole, do not empty yourself to fill up their soul. Do not shatter into pieces trying to perfect yourself. You do not need to be glass to turn light into rainbows. You are a person, not their prism.
3. Do not let them hold you against their body if you know they do not cherish every second they are in contact with your skin. I know it feels as if you are breaking your own spine, but tear yourself away from them. Know that the something beautiful you had was already fading. Know that in the end you did the only thing you could. Sometimes people grow apart. Even trees do it.
4. Cry. Want them back.
5. Cry. Do not take them back.
6. In the following months, you will rediscover what it means to be alone. You will sit and stare at a ceiling and hate yourself and hate the world and cry about everything because everything hurts. You will wonder if it could have gotten better if you’d just been a little different, if the timing had worked out, if if if. Do not worry about this. Nothing would have changed the reality that the person you were in love with had stopped loving you somewhere along the line, whether it was in the middle of a conversation or while driving under a bridge or when they made eye contact with someone new and wonderful. It doesn’t matter. Stop wasting your time on them. You don’t need to stop your story just because they are no longer a main character. Do not take back what has already poisoned you. Instead start healing and start healing soon.
7. Take yourself back. Bring out the mop, the broom, the magic wand. Glue where needs to be glued, put up new paint, turn off the lights in places that are too hot to touch. Touch your toes. Touch your hair. Touch a dog. Touch the grass, touch the telephone, do not call him. Touch base with your mom. Touch another person with no love in your heart, touch another person and mean every second of it. Believe in yourself even if you don’t believe in love. It’s okay. There is nothing wrong with being alone. You are the best company you’ll ever know. It’s okay. It’s okay. You’re gonna be okay and none of this was ever your fault. Sometimes people just fall out of love. It’s okay. It’s okay. You’ll one day discover you didn’t need them anyway.
